Discovered a partner's affair? The shock, intrusive thoughts & hypervigilance you feel are recognised trauma responses.

Explore the neurobiology and relational science of trauma-bonding in intimate partner abuse. As a trauma-informed couples therapist, I explain why leaving can feel impossible, how attachment, intermittent abuse and fear regulation interact, and evidence-based pathways toward healing.

Discover what coercive control really means in intimate partner relationships, how it differs from conflict or situational violence, and the evidence-based signs to watch for. Written by a trauma-informed couples therapist, this post empowers survivors and allies to recognise patterns of domination, isolation, and manipulation and take the first steps toward safety and healing.

Discover how trauma therapy heals relational wounds through the therapeutic relationship itself. Explore person-centred, psychodynamic, and somatic approaches, and how they help rebuild trust, safety, and connection. Learn how therapy supports individuals and couples in recovering from relational trauma.

Learn how trauma can profoundly affect memory—whether through flashbacks, memory loss, or emotional imprinting—and why some memories remain vivid while others disappear entirely. This in-depth, easy-to-understand guide explores the neuroscience behind traumatic memory, fragmentation theory, and therapy options including CBT, EMDR, and person-centred therapy. Includes UK-based support resources for trauma and PTSD survivors.

If you’re questioning your relationship, this guide can help you learn the signs of emotional, psychological, sexual, financial and physical abuse. If you're questioning your relationship, find expert advice and UK support resources here.

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) are traumatic events that occur before age 18.