Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love built on intimacy, passion, and commitment is one of the most powerful frameworks in couples therapy. Learn what each component really means, how the triangle shifts over time and why most couples find themselves in an imbalanced triangle without knowing it. Based on Sternberg's original peer-reviewed research.

Emotional abuse by a parent leaves no visible marks but science shows it may be the most damaging form of childhood maltreatment. Backed by peer-reviewed research, this guide explores how parental emotional abuse affects brain development, mental health, and behaviour from infancy through adulthood and why its effects can last a lifetime. If you or someone you love has experienced this, understanding the evidence is the first step toward healing.

The Drama Triangle explains why the same conflicts keep happening in relationships, families, and at work. This is a guide to the Persecutor, Victim, and Rescuer roles: what they are, why we switch between them, and how to step out of the pattern for good.

Discovered a partner's affair? The shock, intrusive thoughts & hypervigilance you feel are recognised trauma responses.

Grief isn’t only about death. As a therapist, I often sit with people mourning lost relationships, missed chances, shifting identities, or the life they imagined but didn’t get. This quieter grief can feel confusing and invisible, yet it deserves care. In this post, I explore how to recognise non-death losses, make space for the pain, and begin healing with compassion and self-understanding.

An in-depth look at neurodivergent parenting, mental health, burnout, shame, and why supporting parents supports children too.

Conflict often increases during December, but that doesn’t mean your relationship is failing. Written from a trauma-informed couples therapy perspective, this article explores why stress, attachment, and nervous system overwhelm make conflict more likely at this time of year, and how understanding this can support repair, safety, and connection.

Explore the neurobiology and relational science of trauma-bonding in intimate partner abuse. As a trauma-informed couples therapist, I explain why leaving can feel impossible, how attachment, intermittent abuse and fear regulation interact, and evidence-based pathways toward healing.

Discover what coercive control really means in intimate partner relationships, how it differs from conflict or situational violence, and the evidence-based signs to watch for. Written by a trauma-informed couples therapist, this post empowers survivors and allies to recognise patterns of domination, isolation, and manipulation and take the first steps toward safety and healing.